written by Lucille Augustine
In my circle of conversations; work, school, hospitals and even churches, i have observed that a lot of people deem it fit to be rude to others for no reason.
It’s almost as if it is now fashionable to be rude.
It is so hard for me to decipher the real reasons behind these behavior from people generally.
Colleagues at work are rude. Customer service officers in organisations are rude. Ushers in churches are rude. Drivers of buses are rude. Shop attendants are rude. Customers are rude. And the list goes on and on and on.
A simple question is met with a sarcastic response. A friendly ‘Hi’ is met with a blank stare or full-on disregard. You’re having a conversation with someone or a group of people, someone cuts you short with no apologies.
Most people know that the words ‘Sorry’ and ‘Thank you’ exist but use them sparingly .
Personally i do not expect that everybody should have a boisterous attitude and wear a happy countenance all the time. But surely it’s important that courtesy is employed in all of our dealings with people.
I have been served my own fair share of rudeness one a little too many times. And i begin to wonder why these attitudes? It beats me that a person would rather be rude than polite.
As i ponder more on these behaviors, i have come to the realization that a person would rather choose to be rude because it makes them feel like they are in control or have authority.
Some others? Maybe because they are envious, jealous or downright hating on a person and so being rude gives them a false sense of importance and dominance.
I on my part have learnt to remain calm, only responding when it is absolutely necessary. This is not to say you should let people walk all over you. Find a subtle way to let them know that their behavior is unacceptable.
People wonder how a human could carry so much peace and calm, joy and laughter and probably look for ways to unsettle you.
I am naturally not a rude person but i could be if i choose to be one. Growth has taught me to always choose to be the bigger person. I only have to remind myself that it’s not me… it’s them probably trying to mask their real emotions with nasty words and attitudes.
My dear BareneDaily readers, always try to remain calm when you encounter rude people. Do not let anyone reduce you and your awesomeness to what they have become. Instead let them understand that your calm demeanor actually makes you the bigger person.
Don’t let them pull you into their storm, pull them into your peace.
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